What keeps unhappy couples together?: a qualitative and theoretical exploration

dc.contributor.advisor Charles Lee Cole
dc.contributor.author Wall, Bingham
dc.contributor.department Human Development and Family Studies
dc.date 2018-08-23T06:55:09.000
dc.date.accessioned 2020-06-30T07:21:22Z
dc.date.available 2020-06-30T07:21:22Z
dc.date.copyright Fri Jan 01 00:00:00 UTC 1999
dc.date.issued 1999
dc.description.abstract <p>Research on marriage has centered on either what happy couples are doing right or what unhappy couples are doing wrong. As a result, researchers have ignored low-quality, high-stability (LQHS) couples, those couples that choose to stay together even though they may be unhappy with each other. This dissertation investigates what keeps couples who are unhappy in their relationships together. A theory was developed based on the marital literature. The transcripts of semi-structured interviews with 9 couples married 5 years or longer, who scored the lowest on the Dyadic Adjustment Scale (DAS) out of a sample of 99 Midwestern, American couples, were investigated to see what they said were the keys in keeping them together;The study reveals five domains. These couples demonstrated (1) an ability to survive early challenges to the marriage that bound them together as a couple; (2) a philosophy of marriage that emphasized the bigger picture, such as elevating the relationship over individuality and for some, elevating their faith over the relationship is a hierarchy; (3) a sense of reciprocity in most of the areas of the relationship such as an emphasis on the good things in the relationship and meeting each other's needs; (4) an ability to adjust to each other and their circumstances through growth and changing how they interacted as couples; and (5) a generally positive attitude toward the limitations of each other by dealing effectively with shattered expectations;The investigation uncovers three types of low-quality couples: those who stay married only because of factors outside the relationship such as children, called "Enduring Couples," those who seek to make an effort to moderate their behavior for the over-all improvement in the relationship, called "Striving Couples," and those who divorce;A synthesized theory about LQHS couples that takes the research literature and the results of this qualitative study into account is presented. The paper concludes with a discussion about the clinical implications of the findings in therapy with low-stability couples, the limits of qualitative research, and directions for future study.</p>
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dc.identifier archive/lib.dr.iastate.edu/rtd/12490/
dc.identifier.articleid 13489
dc.identifier.contextkey 6804175
dc.identifier.doi https://doi.org/10.31274/rtd-180813-13758
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dc.identifier.submissionpath rtd/12490
dc.identifier.uri https://dr.lib.iastate.edu/handle/20.500.12876/65864
dc.language.iso en
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dc.subject.disciplines Family, Life Course, and Society
dc.subject.disciplines Social Psychology
dc.subject.disciplines Social Psychology and Interaction
dc.subject.keywords Human development and family studies
dc.subject.keywords Human development and family studies (Marriage and family therapy)
dc.subject.keywords Marriage and family therapy
dc.title What keeps unhappy couples together?: a qualitative and theoretical exploration
dc.type article
dc.type.genre dissertation
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thesis.degree.level dissertation
thesis.degree.name Doctor of Philosophy
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