The Thanksgiving feast is a tradition and any attempt to make it different usually leads to disappointment. One lady told of a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner that she and her party enjoyed at a fashionable hotel. It was a well-balanced meal, served in the most correct manner, and yet it did not spell Thanksgiving. On the way home one of the small boys in the party remarked, ''I like homemade turkey best.'' After all, isn't that the way a great many of us feel? We don't wish to depart too far from the old traditional feasts.